well, definitely go with upgrading Bb before you look into Eb and A- those are doubling instruments, and htere aren't always parts. A's are used in a lot of orchestra pieces, but often (in newer releases) there are transposed parts for Bb so it's not crucial to have an A unless you're really involved in an orchestra or something. Eb's have occasional parts in orchestra music and often in band music, but they aren't always a crucial part- often it's doubled or cued in other instruments. one of my friends plays Eb but since we have a small clarinet section, most of the time its more useful for her to stay on Bb and so she only plays important/prominent/solo parts on the Eb.
difference in playing-wise, the A is more similar to the Bb, and the Eb is a little different, being substantially smaller. i think you have to be more careful to control the higher end of the range.
Eb's are really cute though