The only difference between high notes and low notes is the speed of the air passing the lips. High speed = fast vibration. Low speed = slow vibration.
When we work on pp playing, the aperture is small.
The opposite applies for ff playing.
When we work on high playing, the aperture is small.
The opposite applies for low playing.
If your lips are opening wider for high notes, you are probably creating tension somewhere else to get the speed of the air fast enough to play the notes.
The best way to control and train in your situation (without seeing and hearing you play), is to practise Clarke studies in a whisper.
Good luck!
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